Take charge of your time, imagine the life you want, and give thoughtful consideration to where you’d like to retire. But the truth is, life often has other plans. It’s filled with unexpected joys and surprising setbacks.

When I was 19, I met an incredible woman. Before long, we were living together, sharing a room, and even combining our finances. Just after celebrating our one-year anniversary, she disappeared—leaving without a word while I was at work.

It wasn’t until a month later that I found out she had moved out. Shockingly, I also learned she had married her long-time boyfriend of five years.

Even her mother seemed to know nothing about me, and the woman I once met—whom she introduced as her mom—now feels more like an actress playing a part. The whole situation has left me confused to this day.