Breakups are never easy, especially when infidelity is involved. But for one woman, her situation went from painful to downright confusing. Seeking clarity, she shared her story online, hoping for advice on how to handle an unexpected and emotional dilemma.
“He cheated on me with my best friend.”
My ex-boyfriend ended our relationship because he developed feelings for my closest friend, Ana. We all spent a lot of time together, and eventually, they confessed they had feelings for each other — and that Josh had been cheating on me. I felt utterly betrayed. They pretended everything was fine while keeping this secret behind my back.
If they had been honest from the start, I might have found it in me to be understanding. But instead, they lied. After that, I cut both of them out of my life completely. I focused on my studies, built my career, and eventually found a great job.
Though they occasionally tried to reach out and “be friends,” I blocked all contact and moved on. Life improved — I relocated to a nearby town for work and enjoyed being close to my family.
Then, about a month ago, I heard from a mutual friend that Josh and Ana were getting married. Surprisingly, I felt nothing — no anger, no sadness — so I just carried on with my life.
But then things took a strange turn.
Last week, Ana messaged me, inviting me to join the wedding party. I politely replied, “Congratulations,” but declined the invitation. I’ve long since moved on, and I’m even dating someone new, but I have no desire to celebrate the wedding of two people who deceived me.
Still, they wouldn’t give up. Josh reached out from another number, and even mutual friends urged me to attend. I firmly said no. My mom called, asking if I planned to go — she sounded disappointed when I said I wasn’t, though she didn’t argue.
Then Ana’s parents called, saying they missed me and hoped I would attend. When I refused, her mother scolded me, telling me to “let go of the past” and “be happy for her daughter.” I asked her, “If I had cheated on Ana’s boyfriend and then invited her to my wedding, would you tell her to come?” She didn’t answer — so I ended the call.
Now things have spiraled — I’m getting 20–30 calls and texts daily from their family and friends, begging me to come. I don’t understand why they’re so desperate for me to attend. What could possibly motivate them? And more importantly — how do I get them to stop?