My daughter Amy has been distant from me ever since she turned 18. She gradually cut me out of her life — I wasn’t invited to her graduation, her engagement, or any other major milestones. Over the years, our contact dwindled to almost nothing.
Recently, out of the blue, Amy reached out. I was surprised but also hopeful that maybe we could reconnect. We talked for a while, and things seemed civil — until she began to complain about how difficult it was raising her two young boys without help.
Then came her request: she wanted me to babysit them every Saturday and “be a good grandparent.”
I told her honestly that she had broken our bond years ago, and that I couldn’t suddenly step in to take care of her children as if nothing had happened. That’s when she called me selfish and blocked me on every platform again.
Now I’m left wondering — was I truly wrong to refuse her request? After everything that’s passed between us, am I really being selfish for protecting my own heart? I would really appreciate your thoughts and advice.