My wife and I have been married for two years, and we welcomed our child last year. Before marrying me, my wife married young, but her husband passed away. I was aware of her past and accepted it without hesitation—until recently.
She has remained close to her late husband’s parents, who had only one child, their son. When our baby was born, they were overjoyed and began visiting us once a week. At first, their presence felt harmless, even supportive, but over time it has become overwhelming.
They now visit us more often than either my parents or hers, and on occasion they even stay in our home. This is something I wouldn’t be comfortable with if it were my own parents, and it has started to weigh on me. During their visits, they frequently talk about their late son. While I understand their grief, some of their comments make me uneasy.
At one point, they said our daughter resembles him. On another occasion, his mother told my wife, “If she’s this cute, just imagine how adorable your children would have been, if only…” She stopped mid-sentence, seemingly realizing I was nearby.
I’ve tried to remain polite and understanding, knowing this situation might arise. Still, the constant reminders and emotional comparisons are becoming increasingly uncomfortable for me. Now I’m left wondering: would it be wrong to set boundaries and prevent my wife’s late husband’s parents from visiting our daughter?