The British royal family is mourning the loss of Lord Robert Fellowes, uncle to Princes Harry and William. Lord Robert passed away at the age of 82, leaving behind a legacy of dedicated service and steadfast loyalty to the Crown. Though not a blood relative of Princess Diana, he was deeply intertwined with the royal family, serving as the private secretary to Queen Elizabeth II from 1990 to 1999. His tenure saw him navigate some of the most challenging times in recent royal history, including the infamous “annus horribilis” of 1992.
A Lifelong Commitment to Service
Born at Sandringham House in Norfolk in 1941, during the height of the Second World War, Lord Robert Fellowes was destined for a life closely connected to the British monarchy. Educated at the prestigious Eton College, he demonstrated a commitment to public service early on by joining the Scots Guards on a short-term commission in 1960. His initial professional experience was as a banker for Allen Harvey and Ross Ltd., a firm specializing in discount brokerage and banking.
However, his role within the Royal Household defined much of his life and career. In 1977, Fellowes was appointed as an Assistant Private Secretary, beginning a 20-year tenure that saw him rise through the ranks. By 1986, he had been promoted to Deputy Private Secretary, and in 1990, he became the Private Secretary to the Queen, a position he held with distinction until 1999.
Navigating the “Annus Horribilis”
Lord Robert’s most notable period of service was undoubtedly during the “annus horribilis” of 1992, a year fraught with personal and public challenges for the royal family. This year saw the separation of Prince Charles and Princess Diana, the separation of Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson, the divorce of Princess Anne, and the devastating fire at Windsor Castle. Amidst these crises, Lord Robert provided invaluable support to the Queen, helping her navigate the turbulent waters of public scrutiny and familial discord.
In the wake of Princess Diana’s tragic death in 1997, Lord Robert faced allegations from Mohammed al Fayed, the owner of Harrods, who made unfounded claims about his involvement in the accident that led to Diana’s death. Despite these accusations, Lord Robert maintained his dignity and continued to serve the royal family with the same dedication and integrity that had characterized his career.
A Personal Connection to Princess Diana
Lord Robert’s connection to Princess Diana extended beyond his professional role. In 1978, he married Lady Jane Fellowes, Diana’s older sister, at Westminster Abbey. Diana, then known as Lady Diana Spencer, served as a bridesmaid at the wedding, further solidifying the bond between Fellowes and the royal family. The couple had three children: Eleanor Ruth Fellowes, Alexander Robert Fellowes, and Laura Jane Fellowes.
In a rare personal reflection, Lord Robert spoke fondly of Diana after her death, telling The Telegraph, “I was very fond of her. She was a great person. It was hard for her to be happy, and I feel bad for people who are in that situation.” His words reflect a deep empathy and understanding of the complexities of life within the royal sphere.
Honors and Legacy
For his long and faithful service, Lord Robert was awarded the Queen Elizabeth II Version of the Royal Household Long and Faithful Service Medal in 1997. His contributions were further recognized when he was made a Baron upon his retirement, a title that elevated Lady Jane to the status of Baroness. He made his formal introduction to the House of Lords on October 26, 1999, marking the beginning of a new chapter in his life.
Lord Robert continued to serve the royal family in a ceremonial capacity as an Extra Equerry to the late Queen until her death in September 2022. His dedication and loyalty to the monarchy remained unwavering throughout his life, earning him the respect and admiration of both the royal family and the public.
A Legacy of Quiet Strength and Dedication
As the royal family and the nation remember Lord Robert Fellowes, it is clear that his life was marked by a quiet strength and a deep commitment to service. His role in some of the most challenging moments in recent royal history underscores his importance as a stabilizing force within the monarchy. His passing is a significant loss, but his legacy of service, loyalty, and discretion will be remembered for years to come.
Lord Robert’s life serves as a reminder of the often unseen and unsung roles that support the public face of the monarchy. His contributions to the royal family and his country are a testament to his character and dedication, qualities that will be fondly remembered and sorely missed.