A 35-year-old mother recently reached out, voicing deep concerns about her children’s well-being due to another woman’s actions. In an emotional letter, she describes a distressing situation that feels like a plea for help. This sensitive issue involves not just her, but also her children and her ex-husband’s new wife. Seeking guidance from our readers, she hopes to determine whether her feelings are justified or if she may be overreacting to what seems like an innocent family matter.
Megan, 35, shared the complicated and emotional journey of co-parenting with her ex-husband, John. While their divorce was amicable, her worries about her children’s safety have intensified. Despite her efforts to avoid conflict, the situation has escalated to a point where she can no longer stay silent. By sharing her experience, she hopes readers can offer insight into whether her concerns are valid.
Megan begins her letter by explaining, “John and I were married for 13 years before divorcing two years ago. We have two children, now 13 and 8. Our separation was peaceful, free of drama or resentment. We both worked hard to ensure our kids adjusted well, always making it clear that they were still deeply loved. John and I have remained great friends, and everything had been going smoothly—until recently.”
Since the divorce, John has remarried, and at first, Megan was supportive. She continues, “Last year, John got married again. His wife, Lily, is a kind, young woman who loves him deeply. I knew about their relationship from the beginning and was genuinely happy for him. There are no lingering romantic feelings between us—we’ve both moved on.”
Megan’s primary concern has always been her children’s well-being. “Since John settled down before I did, I was especially mindful of how Lily interacted with our kids. Initially, there was nothing to worry about. She seemed eager to build a bond with them, and I encouraged their time together. They even joined John and Lily on vacations, and I assumed everything was fine—until I discovered something that completely shocked me.”
What Megan found left her unsettled and alarmed. “While checking my eldest son’s Facebook, I came across Lily’s profile. She had been regularly posting pictures of my children, which, on its own, might not have been a problem. But she also included their full names, photos of their jerseys displaying our location, and even tagged their whereabouts. Worse, her profile was completely public.”
Her frustration grew. “I was furious when I saw this. Since then, I’ve repeatedly asked her to stop, but she either ignores me or agrees to take the posts down, only to keep posting. The last straw came when I saw a picture of my 8-year-old daughter in a swimsuit on her public page.”
Feeling desperate, Megan confronted Lily. “I lost my patience and directly asked her to stop. She dismissed me, saying I was being unreasonable. This is the only request I’ve ever made—to not share pictures of my kids online. The issue isn’t just that she posts about them, but that her profile is wide open, and she doesn’t monitor her 4,000+ followers. She even blocked me on Facebook after our conversation, only to later unblock me—meaning I can still see everything she posts, as can everyone else.”
Megan eventually reached her breaking point. “I recently called Lily and told her to stay away from my children altogether. When John found out, he was furious that I had cut her off from the kids. But I feel like I need to protect them. Maybe I’m overreacting, but I don’t think I crossed a line. If Lily had a private profile and was more cautious, I wouldn’t be as concerned. But she doesn’t seem to care who sees what she’s sharing.”
Megan’s concerns for her children’s privacy and safety are understandable. A calm discussion with John and Lily could help establish clear boundaries while ensuring the kids’ best interests remain the priority. Finding a respectful compromise may be key to resolving this issue.
What would you do if you were in Megan’s situation? Have you faced a similar challenge with an ex’s new partner? Share your thoughts in the comments.