One choice can change the course of a life forever. After Erin’s mother passed away, her beloved stepfather, feeling overwhelmed and unable to care for her alone, made the heartbreaking decision to place her in the care of her paternal grandmother.
But Erin never accepted that decision. She felt abandoned—and carried that resentment for years. Now, her stepfather has reappeared, this time in need of her help. Unsure of what to do, Erin turned to us for support and clarity.
Here are some thoughtful suggestions for anyone navigating a situation like Erin’s:
Take time to reflect on your emotions and your personal needs. Ask yourself whether reconnecting with your stepfather would support your healing or reopen old wounds.
It’s important to acknowledge any pain or sense of betrayal, but also to consider whether forgiveness and reconnection might bring you peace. If you’re unsure, seeking the help of a therapist or counselor could be invaluable.
Having a neutral professional to talk to can offer clarity as you sort through complex feelings, weigh your options, and decide what kind of relationship—if any—you want to rebuild.